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STOP Doing this One Thing and Get a Life!
STOP Doing this One Thing and Get a Life! Trying to get your children to fulfill your dreams is one of the worst mistakes we make. God created them with her unique gifts and talents. Our job is to teach them to use their gifts for what they were created.Continue reading STOP Doing this One Thing and Get a Life!
Children Need Structure from Loving Parents
Structure. Being a dad is hours upon days upon weeks upon years of having little people running around doing things you don’t want done, making mistakes, spilling milk, “wasting your time” (not that any of it is really a waste of time), misbehaving, driving you to the point of momentary insanity. Since our use of discipline normally occurs during periods of out-of-control and inappropriate behavior, it is easy to understand why anger and frustration are frequently attached to it.
This is why children need structure from moms and dads, not best friends. Which leads to the next worst mistake parents make:
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This week we will take a hard look at parenting as we continue to discuss the 7 worst things parents do. In today’s episode I will highlight what happens when parents fail to give their children structure and why it’s one of the 7 worst mistakes parents can make.
Failing to Give Your Child Structure.
“When people do not accept divine guidance, they run wild. But whoever obeys the law is joyful.” Proverbs 29:18 (NLT)
“The rod of correction imparts wisdom, but a child left to himself disgraces his mother.” Proverbs 29:15 (NIV)
Notice the word “correction” again as we saw in the first part of this series on babying your child. Along with “instruction” it imparts wisdom in the lives of our children. Left on their own without any guidance, without structure, children often naturally get into mischief. “A child left to himself disgraces his mother.”
Where do children learn self-discipline? Children learn internal structure by first experiencing external structure. Parents discipline their children as the foundation for them one day being able to discipline themselves.
Two Russian psycholinguists, Luria and Vygotsky, spent years studying how children’s inner speech develops and how children eventually use it to control their own behavior. According to their findings, parents give directions to their children such as, “Put the toy in the box,” or, “Watch for cars before you cross the street.” Children hear these attempts to provide structure and direction and eventually say these directions to themselves. Children can control their own behavior by talking to themselves using the script provided by loving parents and grandparents!
When we fail to give the structure of correction and instruction children go to the default mode when talking to themselves. What’s the default mode for all of us humans? We’re sinners. We want to do what feels good to us to do. We don’t naturally talk self-discipline to ourselves. Our natural inclination without any structure is to take the easy road, do what gives us immediate gratification. “I don’t want to put that toy back in the box so I’ll just leave my room a mess.” Then mom or dad have to come along and clean up behind them. Some adults expect us to clean up behind them because they weren’t given structure as children. (I see this daily with many young men and women that work for me).
Why are Babies Spanked?
A mother overheard her son’s little six-year-old friend ask why babies are spanked when they are born, the youngster replied, “To get them used to it.” Really the Bible indicates that when parents make their children mind they are really trying to save their lives.
The Pain of Discipline weighs ounces. But The Pain of Regret weighs tons.
Pediatricians and psychologists are finding today’s parents are too permissive. They are reluctant to set limits for their children. And this benign parental neglect is harming kids from the ages of nine months to adolescence.
Karen Stabiner writes in the New York Times: “It seems that the parents of today’s parents, those strict disciplinarians of the 1950s and early ’60s, may have been right all along: father and mother did know best. . . .”
Revetta Bowers heads the Centre for Early Education in Los Angeles. She says schools are replacing parents. “Schools now make rules, which in many instances are the only rules that are not open to arbitration or negotiation. What children really need is guidance and love and support. We expect them to act more and more like adults, while we act more and more like children. Then, when we’re ready to act like parents, they bristle at the retaking of authority.”
In other words, you can’t leave it to Beaver.
Parents, please be parents!
Don’t waste your time trying to become your child’s friend. God, in His great wisdom, did not make you to be your child’s friend. You are the parent! And you will make your children mad every now and then! It’s in the daddy manual, right after taking out the trash, dads make everybody mad every once in a while! It is the job of parents to discipline or train children.
I heard a story about A kindergarten in one town that sat right on a corner by a busy highway. Although the school had a nice yard in which the children could play, at recess they would huddle right up against the building. The cars speeding by frightened them. One day, workmen erected a steel fence around the school yard. From that point on, the children used the entire playground. The fence did not limit their freedom; it actually expanded it. Children need fences, for they feel more secure having the discipline of clear boundaries
Don’t miss next week’s episode when we bring up the sixth item in my list of the 7 worst things parents do. And that is when parents Expect their Children to Fulfill their Dreams.
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A Call To Action – Mistakes
Listen, our families need us to learn how to do it God’s way. Our spouses need us o do it God’s way. Our world needs us to do it God’s way. Will you join me in this titanic endeavour?
Today I ask you to decide, will you do life your own way or will you do it His way? Will you be a Godly person or will you turn your back on God? Choose today what kind of person you will be, as for me and my family, we will serve the Lord and do it God’s way.
Will you join us?
And This is the Number 1 Reason Not to Baby Your Child!
Don’t Baby Your Child! Being a parent is hard. It’s one of the hardest things any man or woman will do in their lifetime. We all want to be the perfect parent, but the reality of the matter is that we do some very dumb things. We are not perfect and God knows that! However, there are 7 things we do as parents that are downright terrible. What are they? We start with this one:
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2 Proven Ways to Overcome Those Pesky Family Flaws
Family flaws are tough to deal with. Many are never able to overcome those family flaws. So, How do you overcome your Family Flaws? Here are two proven ways to do it. Continue reading 2 Proven Ways to Overcome Those Pesky Family Flaws
So What’s The Big Deal About Adam and Eve?
So what’s the big deal about Adam and Eve and their sin? Well, let me give you a sober warning. When we sin, the consequences of that sin are like the ripple effect on the surface of a body of water. What Eve did affected Adam and what they both did affected us all. Continue reading So What’s The Big Deal About Adam and Eve?
You and I and the Endless Family Flaw.
Let me ask you a question and be honest with yourself. Is your family perfect or flawed? If you are honest with me today, you will agree that your family has quite a few flaws. And so do you for that matter! The fact is that we are all flawed, but we’re not flawed beyond hope! With God’s help we can overcome the impact of our flawedness. The endless family flaw has a remedy, GOD’S GRACE IS GREATER THAN OUR FAMILY FLAWS! Continue reading You and I and the Endless Family Flaw.
Surviving Your Family Flaws post COVID-19
We all want to have the perfect family. Today’s episode is the first in the series “The Ultimate Guide to the Perfect Family“. Today we discuss how to survive family flaws. Continue reading Surviving Your Family Flaws post COVID-19